Role Overload!

July 1, 2008 – 1:51 pm

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Have you ever had one of those days where every segment of your life presses in.  I am there.  On any given day, any number of these areas of my life together would be a blessing and joy!  But I have reached critical mass today and feel like I am trying to separate colored ice cream sprinkles.  Maybe the solution is not to try and separate, but admire the colors all together.

I don’t know… Parent, Pastor, Husband, Friend, Consumer, Son, Brother, Triathlete, Self… It is creating a little fragmentation for me today.


The Moss On My Tree.

June 30, 2008 – 8:08 am

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I was sitting on my porch the other day and I noticed some moss on my tree. This tree, a large older tree in the north side of my property has this green streak. What is its purpose? Where did it come from? In the eternity of things, it would come and go regardless of me noticing. Even more, it would come and go regardless of my existence at all! Two things struck me. First, the moss is almost invisible, unnoticeable and I could have gone through my life never even knowing it was there (like people in cars passing on a highway) - not noticing its greenness and or its purpose. Second, a moment in time, noticing and connecting with creation can be so powerful - even balanced against eternity. I am still contemplating on the second, but the first spoke to me.

Have you ever felt alone? unknown? invisible? like no one cares about you? even worse, your just unnoticeable? Conversely, there have been many instances in my life when I felt like I wanted to disappear, but looking back on those instances, often it was because I feared being known. The ridicule, mocking, unacceptance who I was in all of my awkwardness. Would I have to try to change in order to fit in; changing who I was to someday hopefully be accepted for who I am (all the while trying to hold on to the real me).

Life is like that at times, a social club in which the requirement of acceptance is molding your behaviors and personality to the least common denominator in order to gain acceptance and hopefully gain enough influence to create an openness so that you could be known for who you really are. Politics can be a lot like that - Republican or Democrat - you need to fit in and play the game or you’ll end up on the outside - unsupported, regardless of your qualifications for public office. I don’t know why we Americans are that way, but we are.

Politics aside, it is possible to go through life like the moss on my tree - almost unnoticed and hidden, yet functional. When Matthew 16 recounts Peter claiming Jesus to be the Christ, he realized that Jesus made life different.

It was more than the daily grind.
It was more than the passing, “how ya doing?”
It was more than conversations focussed on things to do.
It was more than money or possessions.

Maybe it was like going from standard definition television to HD. Words cannot easily describe the difference that Christ can make in a person’s life, but in the way it is like realizing that the green hue on my tree was more than a color or a mistake - it is with purpose, important to the creation, and even more so - known!


Time to Contemplate.

June 23, 2008 – 7:09 am

It was a weekend like no other.  I was pushed to the extremes emotionally and spiritually.  So far, in my ministry I have not experienced anything like the past 4 days.  On Thursday night, I had a wedding rehearsal for a young woman who I confirmed about 7 years ago.  She has now graduated college and got married last night to a really nice guy.  Friday, I had the committal for my uncle’s ashes at a veteran’s cemetary.  Saturday was the memorial service for my uncle.  Sunday evening was the wedding.

Some background, typically I don’t preform religious services for people outside my church, unless they are a friend of a family or extended family.  So, I am not doing funerals and wedding all that often.

The bride is a member of our church and we had shared some sad times together when her father passed away several years ago.  After her Dad’s death, she moved about an hour away.  We haven’t seen each other for several years when she asked me to perform her wedding ceremony. She made the whole experience of preforming the ceremony so special for me.  It felt like I was preforming a marriage for one of my own kids.  I cherish her kind words and thank God for allowing me to be part of her spiritual journey.

My uncle’s committal and memorial service were so hard and emotionally in the other direction.  Spiritually, both the wedding and the memorial service were uplifting (celebrating my uncle’s life and his birth into heaven - celebrating the joining of two people in loving martrimony).

Likewise, I was honored to lead my family during part of their spiritual journey through life.  The circumstances were sad and raw at times, but it was great to see my uncle’s family rally around them and it was awesome to see how many people came to his memorial service.  There was standing room only (and probably as many standing as seated).  I will miss him.  For me, when we saw each other at family events he was alway approachable and accessible.  Often he would start his conversations with me. I knew when he looked at me a certain way and began his sentence with, “Joey,…” in a certain tone, I knew that he was about to give me some tidbit of loving wisdom he’d learned that I could apply to my life and current situation. Anyway…

(Aside, I had abnormal church related responsibilities as well.  The church plant had its largest outreach event of the year at precisely the same time as the memorial service.  Sunday night our District came together to celebrate the ministry of our district superintendent at the same time as the wedding.  Sunday morning the church plant was displaced out of the gym because of  a graduation ceremony, so we held an open-air worship in the field behind the school. And at 11:00am worship, we had conformation.)

So, since I couldn’t clone myself, I set my priorities and began to pray.  By Thursday I was determined to get everything done to the best of my abilities to honor and glorify God.  Everything seemed to go well.  I felt good about honoring and glorifying God.  Three distinct messages, one normal message for worship, two messages celebrating two of life’s most significant events.  But, now…

with all the responsibilities of leading the different groups of people in their own respective arena of life, the tragitdy that occurred with my uncle’s death is beginning to set in.  So, I need to take some time to just be and mourn his lose.

It was a great weekend filled with emotional extremes and deep spiritual meaning.  Thanks be to God for the opportunity to serve Him.


Spiritual Effects of Internet Community.

June 19, 2008 – 10:48 am

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Ebbs and Flows of community are more interesting these days because of the internet.  The ability to connect with people at great distances that you haven’t seen or heard from in many years is possible now through searches.  I am a member of the Facebook community (I have a MySpace page, but really never use it) and recently I have been able to connect with old friends from Seton Hall and Icelandic cousins (some of which I have never even met).  It is an interesting phenomena when worlds begin to intersect and community takes on new forms.

I am really happy to connect with some old friends from SHU.  They were good friends nearly 15 years ago, but I had lost touch after I graduated.  SHU was a real tumultuous time in my life.  At the time, I was hard to be around, let alone befriend and yet they hung in with me, even when I could easily be embarrassing to be around.   My memories from SHU (especially the early years) are scarred from the stuff I did (things that I pray my children never go through) yet the fondest of memories were of people like them.  It is interesting when these worlds colide because different times strike up different feelings and the connectability that the interent provide really causes me to have to live in multiple time zones of my life.  I find it therapeutic, but more than that it is great to have another chance to connect and grow together.

I think it is awesome to be able to connect with realitives that I otherwise might not ever meet.  I can read their blogs (at least try and decipher the Icelandic) and be a part of their lives (even if it is a minut one) where I would never have that opportunity.  What is it like to know someone but never meet them? especially family?  I think it is pretty cool and hopefully someday, I’ll get to meet them in person, but it will be like meeting a friend because of the opportunity to interact through blogs, video blogs, photo blogs, IM, and social networking sites.

At some level rediscovering or discovering for the first time someone online is like getting to know Christ.  You’ve never been face to face with Him, but you can still develop a strong relationship through the different avenues of spiritual networking.  Reading the Bible is like reading His blog, praying is like sending an email or an IM, being a member of the church is like being in His network through the church.  Like my friends from SHU and Icelandic family members, Jesus can seek you out and find you, if your out there and accessible.


Sinner in need.

June 17, 2008 – 9:48 am

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I have been thinking a lot recently about a lot of deep stuff.  One is sin.  I find that because I am a Christian and even more so a pastor, there is often a perception within the church and community that I am less flawed or more righteous.

I am not quite sure where these perceptions come from, but clearly I am not less flawed or more righteous.  I am a sinner in need of grace throughout my entire journey of life.  Like the rest of us, I struggle with self-destructive behaviors and I wrestle with relationships.

It is true that I yearn for more time with God and cling to Jesus.  Yet, if anything, a more accurate perception of me might be one in which I have screwed up life worst than most and out of the misery and suffering I turned to turn to Jesus, who was there all the time waiting for me to be ready.  He offered me forgiveness and grace and gave me hope. He assured me that He would never leave me.

In that, I have become hopeful and seen some positive changes in my life.  I give glory to God for that, but I am still a person - apparently less perfect than the stereotypical “pastor” and in need of prayer, forgiveness and grace just as much as the next person.

Can I expect that? From some, yes.  And from others probably not.  Regardless, God has called me to lead less-than perfect people to a hope of freedom, even in my own imperfections and flaws.

The Apostle Paul’s states in his letter to the Romans:

I do not understand what I do. For what I want to do I do not do, but what I hate I do. And if I do what I do not want to do, I agree that the law is good. As it is, it is no longer I myself who do it, but it is sin living in me. I know that good itself does not dwell in me, that is, in my sinful nature. For I have the desire to do what is good, but I cannot carry it out. For I do not do the good I want to do, but the evil I do not want to do—this I keep on doing. Now if I do what I do not want to do, it is no longer I who do it, but it is sin living in me that does it.

So I find this law at work: Although I want to do good, evil is right there with me. For in my inner being I delight in God’s law; but I see another law at work in me, waging war against the law of my mind and making me a prisoner of the law of sin at work within me. What a wretched man I am! Who will rescue me from this body of death? Thanks be to God, who delivers me through Jesus Christ our Lord!

So then, I myself in my mind am a slave to God’s law, but in my sinful nature a slave to the law of sin. (Romans 7:15-25, TNIV)

This is not to justify my behaviors. It is not to make me feel better. But as a pastor called to lead, it is to know the reality of my own state in a world in which I/we were born and have a chance to be redeemed.


Spiritual Disciplines: Works of Piety

June 17, 2008 – 9:05 am

John Wesley believed that Jesus is God’s means of grace. For him, the “means of grace” were also “works of piety” (spiritual disciplines) and “works of mercy” (doing good to others). He said that means of grace are: “…outward signs, words, or actions, ordained of God, and appointed for this end, to be the ordinary channels whereby he might convey to men, preventing, justifying, or sanctifying grace.”

Wesley talked about a variety of works of piety:
The chief of these means are prayer, whether in secret or with the great congregation; searching the Scriptures; (which implies reading, hearing, and meditating thereon;) and receiving the Lord’s Supper, eating bread and drinking wine in remembrance of Him: And these we believe to be ordained of God, as the ordinary channels of conveying his grace to the souls of men.

He also emphasized the importance of fasting and participating in Christian community.

Prayer

John Wesley considered prayer an essential part of Christian living, calling it, in many of his writings, the most important means of grace. Christians were to pray constantly, without ceasing (1 Thessalonians 5:17). He wrote in A Plain Account of Christian Perfection:

Whether we think of; or speak to, God, whether we act or suffer for him, all is prayer, when we have no other object than his love, and the desire of pleasing him.

All that a Christian does, even in eating and sleeping, is prayer, when it is done in simplicity, according to the order of God, without either adding to or diminishing from it by his own choice.

How have you experienced prayer in your own life? Do you agree with Wesley that it is the most important means of grace, more important than the Bible?

Bible Study

John Wesley read the Bible every day, usually early in the day or late in the evening. A scholar, he could read the scriptures in their original languages and wrote commentaries on the Bible. His Explanatory Notes on the New Testament and his sermons are a part of the Doctrinal Standards of The United Methodist Church. John Wesley gave Methodists advice on how to read the Bible. Read Wesley’s advice and try it. Is his approach helpful to you? What is your method of searching the scriptures?

Fasting

The spiritual reasons for fasting have been pretty much lost on today’s society, particularly in Protestantism. Many United Methodists are surprised to learn that John Wesley fasted two days a week, Wednesdays and Fridays, in his younger days. Later he fasted on Fridays. Charles Yrigoyen, Jr., in John Wesley: Holiness of Heart and Life writes:

Wesley was convinced that fasting, abstaining from food or drink, was a practice firmly grounded in the Bible. People in Old Testament times fasted (Ezra 8:23). So did Jesus and his followers (Matthew 4:2; Acts 13:3), and Wesley saw no reason why modern Christians should not follow the same pattern. His plan of fasting sometimes allowed for limited eating and drinking. He found that fasting advanced holiness. (John Wesley: Holiness of Heart and Life copyright © 1996 Charles Yrigoyen, Jr., p. 33.)

John Wesley believed that God’s grace is conveyed through the Lord’s Supper and that it is a major way God nourishes us. Has your experience of Holy Communion been nourishing to your spiritual growth? If you are one of the many Christians who do not take communion very often, do Wesley’s arguments help you to see the sacrament in a different perspective? Read the entire sermon. (Blog article from http://gbgm-umc.org/umw/wesley/disciple.stm)


The Aquarium: A Journey Of Faith.

June 16, 2008 – 8:25 am

Recently, I bought an aquarium.

But let me start about a year ago, when we saved three “feeder” goldfish. One for each of my kids. Soon, my daughter’s goldfish was the only survivor. Her name is Allie. After the pastor performed funerals for the two deceased fish. The fish died days apart, so the funerals were on separate days and due to my cat we held to the Jewish tradition of burying the departed expediently. Almost immediately my kids wanted replacements and I was able to hold them off. Until, one fateful day when my wife went for her new driver’s license…

The place she needed to go was next to the PetSmart. So, I was going to drop her off and take the kids on some errands. In a whim and to satisfy my kids year long yearning for replacement fish, I decided to take them into the pet store armed with a quarter each ($.25) for two new feeder fish. I knew the fate of these fish and I was now giving two death row fish at least a slim chance. The margin of survival was not good against Allie the now monstrous goldfish that already occupied the tiny little tank, but hey - I was giving them a chance.

Well, the next twist of fate was unexpected and brought on by the yet-to-renew-my-license lady. My wife was unable to get her license because she only had 16 official forms of identification and needed 17, so she called me on the phone and then meandered over to PetSmart. My kids excitedly told her what the plans were and she promptly pulled me aside and told me that she couldn’t handle anymore fish funerals. So we had to do something else.

Well, what ensued was the creation of self-contained 30 gallon biosphere living in my dining room. Slowly this biosphere (AKA, our Aquarium) began as a somewhat small concept. Probably kinda like Manhattan was 300 years ago. But now there are 5 snails, 4 red tailed sharks, a bala shark, 6 tiger bards, some kind of catfish, an angelfish, and a big ugly eel.

At first, it was challenging and the learning curve was steep as we tried to regulate the water (pH, ammonia levels, etc.). Then it was learning about live plants and figuring out how the general rule of sunlight is bad for your tank can translate into light is good. It was a crazy, tenuous time. We were living on pins and needles. The tension was thick and at any moment anyone could erupt from the pressure. We had to perform CPR on several fish as the water regulated and unfortunately had a couple more funerals.

What has ensued is pretty miraculous.

At first our tank was cloudy, but the pet store’s fish expert - Dr. Fishlady, told us that in about 2-4 weeks “healthy” bacteria will grow and the tank will clear up. Patiently waiting day after day for that moment cause me to wrestle with my faith. The Dr. Fishlady said that seemingly out of nothing these invisible things will grow. But where did these things come from and how can the be helpful, (later I understood them to be from trash (leftover food) and poo)? Can I trust the person who told me, she didn’t look like much of an expert (with her two months experience working at the store)? How could she know? She told me what to do, and I admit I didn’t go on blind faith, I did some research and read for others’ Aquarium experiences. With enough testimony behind her words and advice, I began doing what she suggested.

Hour by hour I waited, carefully watching the water temp., pH, and other factors. Hour by hour, I looked at the fish and the clouds beginning to pessimistically wonder which one would need CPR next, how long would it be before I would sell the tank because of disastrous results, and how I would break my pessimistic ideas to my kids (as they prophetically became reality). I hoped for the best, but I just could not get beyond the experience of struggling fish and cloudy water.

Aside: One thing I have learned about my pessimistic prophecy is that it is always wrong. In all of the Bible their is always life and hope.

So, the family and I left for a little 5 day trip. No one wanted to leave because we feared the unknown, what would happen to the fish in this delicate state with out constant attention and care. With tears, we bought the week long tank auto-release feeders for the tank and left. As we left, the cloudiness was thick and the ammonia and pH were in the danger zone. (I though for sure the fish were goners.)

We arrived home from our trip, miraculously, the tank was crystal clear. The fish were thriving and the pH/ammonia level was great. To this day, the tank is very much a self-regulated system that is easily maintained. Those little invisible bacteria that somehow grew out of nothing have created a healthy biosphere teaming with life. Forgive me for doubting the Fishlady about the invisible stuff that really made life in the biosphere flourish.


Saddened By The News.

June 15, 2008 – 5:50 am

My Uncle Eric lost his battle against cancer and passed away last night. His and my Aunt’s wedding anniversary was yesterday and of course today is Father’s Day, which adds to the sorrow. Please keep them in prayer for peace and strength in this tragic time.


WSJ article from June 13, 2008

June 14, 2008 – 1:46 pm

Check out this article called Inspired By Startbucks: Charismatic Pastors Grow New Flocks Overseas,
Using Satellites, DVds and Franchise Marketing To Spread Their Own Brand of Religion.

What do you think about the direction of this type of church?  Do you think it is “the” new emination or a fade/trend that will soon end?  Why?


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June 13, 2008 – 5:15 am

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